Should Christians stay calm when provoked?

Grhopper, there is a time for peace and a time for wrath. People say Jesus/God would not support wars. This is far from the truth. All throughout the bible God has chosen sides, and provoked conflicts. He's even said in some situations that he wanted an entire people to be wiped out. We are no different, If a person provokes me to wrath by harming what I hold dear, such as my family, I'll show them wrath beyond all measure. In the same breathe I can show love, just as the God that made me.